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Mindfully Ever After contains 52 chapters on how to stay happily in love by being mindful of the  common pitfalls 
that face many couples in today's world.

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Communication, Finance, Romance,
How to Fight-Right
and setting boundaries with In-laws 
are
a few of the topics covered!
Sample chapters available on Amazon.


Love is 
Energy 

and 

Energy is 
Everything!
 Introduction
My hand naturally glided into his as though it had been there before—snug, warm, comfortable. My future husband guided me to the dance floor

 with ease, somehow knowing our bodies would fit together like yin and yang. Corny as it sounds, I felt like Cinderella meeting my Prince 

Charming. When the music stopped playing at the stroke of midnight, neither one of us wanted to say good night. So, unlike Cinderella who 

dashed away to her awaiting pumpkin, I agreed to venture onto his cousin’s well-worn pontoon boat and we leisurely puttered into the pitch 

blackness of the Monongahela River. 


It wasn’t until we were in the middle of the river that my prince realized his cousin had neglected to tell him that one of the pontoons had a major 

leak. Not that it would have mattered. As the boat’s exaggerated tilt sank deeper into the murky waters, we talked until dawn. 

A mere year after our meeting, we had the word forever engraved inside thin wedding bands that would be paid off in just twelve easy 

installments. 


We didn’t care that he had another year of college and I had my first teaching job at a salary of a whopping five thousand dollars a year. What we 

didn’t have in money was made up for with fiery chemistry that could split an atom. Convinced our love would conquer all, we called our parents 

the morning we planned to elope. This was by no means a spontaneous decision. We had previously found a little church in Maryland where there 

was a kind minister who spoke with us about love, commitment, and the sanctity of marriage. We talked about the future and how we would be one 

of those old couples who always hold hands, finish each other’s sentences, and call each other “Mom” and “Dad.” 


In truth, we had no idea what we were doing. Time proved that love wasn’t enough. Through the years, outside factors and meddlesome people 

cunningly seeped into our lives, playing manipulative games under the guise of caring. The future of our marriage was doomed; we just didn’t 

know it. Just as I had ignored the sinking pontoon, it took me twenty-three years to take responsibility for the underlying feelings of lies and deceit 

that came to define our marriage. 


By the time we sought counseling, the relationship was far too fractured to be repaired. The gray, dingy clouds aptly predicted what was to come 

that fateful day as we walked up the steps of the therapist’s office building. I, for one, had high hopes that he could save us. During that one-hour 

meeting, we first met with the psychologist together, then individually, then together again. At the second together meeting, the doctor told me that 

he needed to see my husband by himself. He said that his issues had to be dealt with before he could help us as a couple. 


With a brief sense of relief that my suspicions were confirmed, I felt a deep sigh release the tension I had been holding firmly within my body. But 

as I recovered, I realized that there was no real cause to celebrate. I felt the counselor’s gaze through his thick, black-rimmed glasses. His smile 

was gone. Neither did he give us any word of encouragement. Not one word. His solemn tone told me that we weren’t fixable. My glance moved 

to my husband as I searched for a sign of hope, but he was mindlessly staring into space. The man I shared my life with couldn’t even look at me. 

Intuitively, I knew we were over. It was a very quiet ride home. 


For the longest time, being divorced bothered me. The word stuck in my throat like a frog that couldn’t hop. The first time I had to check “single” 

on my tax return made me physically ill. Divorce shouldn’t happen to any couple as much in love as we had been. Not to us. Yet, it did.


Granted, I’ve been told that I look at the world through rose-colored glasses, and while I readily admit that I have a tendency to be gullible and 

naive, the one thing I had learned was the value of discernment, the necessity of setting boundaries, and to seek help sooner rather than later. So 

when I married again eight years later, and a boundary was broken, I offered him a choice—therapist or attorney. He chose the attorney.


While I never imagined I would be writing the intimate details of my personal life for all the world to see, I’m grateful to be able to share the 

lessons I have learned and for the spiritual guidance that led me to know that I’m exactly where I’m meant to be. What began with an idea, a 

yellow tablet, and determined desire to help couples honor love, this guide developed to prevent and identify problems before they reach the point 

of no return. 


There are many mindfully ever after marriages and yours is most likely one of them. By becoming aware of the snags and snares ahead of time, 

you’re certain to gain sure-footed confidence on how to keep the sanctity of the vows you made to one another. 


The challenge for couples is blending embedded tribal beliefs, desires, and expectations to create the ideal marriage. Although there’s no one-size-

fits-all set of rules for everyone, reading this book offers the opportunity for meaningful discussion. Matrimony requires supernatural vigilance to 

recognize seemingly insignificant issues, prevent them from escalating, and reach resolution before they become a volcanic mountain of 

irresolvable differences. If you take the same tender care a winemaker exerts as he watches over his vineyard, your love is destined to mature to a 

ripe old age.


Naturally you’re going to have differences of opinions. There will be changes in job situations. And, people will float in and out of your lives who 

prove to be influential challenges. You may even have a strained living arrangement. Know that whatever has happened to you has happened to 

someone else. Pay attention and learn from others! You are not alone. By keeping your values and goals intact, you’re certain to stand in truth with 

one another for now and always. 


Although there are no guarantees in life, living in the zone of mindfulness is truly a pathway to a loving, calm, and caring tomorrow for an ever-

after lifetime of happiness. Thank you for taking Mindfully Ever After on your magnificent journey of love. I applaud your commitment.

As you embark on this incredible adventure, I wish you Godspeed. Just as the astronauts did when they rocketed to the moon, as you cross the 

threshold to a life together, strap in for the ride of your life!






Acceptance

by Paulette Glover on 05/06/19

 Acceptance

NOUN … the act of taking or receiving something offered…the act of assenting or believing. 

   

Accept your partner with all his or her small quirks,

habits and little annoyances.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             

    Uncle Mike picked his teeth with a toothpick. Aunt Jane repeatedly blew her nose then tucked her hanky up her sleeve for easy access. Annoyances to be sure, but since they were two of the kindest people ever known, these habits were accepted by the family without comment.

     Everyone has little quirks or annoyances adopted at an early age, some more annoying than others, like wiping your hands on your shirt sleeve instead of using a napkin.

     When you first began dating, everything is rosy! Each of you are putting your best foot forward focusing all of your attention on getting to know each other’s basic interests. At this level, you don’t know if he leaves sweaty socks on the living room floor, the toilet seat up, or cleans his facial hairs out of the bathroom sink. You don’t know if her clothes are strewn all over the bedroom, if she’ll use your razor on her legs or forget to put the lid on the toothpaste. These are things you learn after making a commitment.

     After living with your partner a while, the habits that you either didn’t notice or that didn’t bother you at the beginning stages may become maddening!         

     You’ve nagged, begged and pleaded for change and it still hasn’t worked. So what do you do?  Some habits are easy fixes, like using silent reminder post-a-notes on the bathroom mirror, “remember to clean out the sink” or the car steering wheel, “remember to get gas.” You need to be able to communicate how irritating it can be finding hairs in the sink or getting into a car on empty.

     Make certain to share with your partner how much you’re bothered by whatever it is.  Use your “I” statements. “Honey, I feel uncomfortable when I get into bed and it’s covered with potato chip crumbs. Could you please not eat in bed?”

     Instead of nit-picking, focus on his positive traits and have gratitude for the richness he adds to your life.  Check your anxiety level to see if there is something else that is troubling you. There’s the saying, “crap slides downhill.” In the movie It’s a Wonderful Life, when the easy going character George Bailey can’t find the missing money and the bank examiner is breathing down his neck, he starts spiraling downward.  When his son Pete tells him about the neighbor’s car, he says, “What’s the matter with our car? Isn’t it good enough for ya!’” He complains about the house being a “drafty old barn” He tells Zuzu’s teacher she’s a “silly, stupid teacher” He screams at Janie’s piano playing telling her to “Stop it!”  While this is an exaggerated scene and hopefully your day isn’t as bad as George’s, but if you have stress piling up on you every day, you could be acting out your personal stress by complaining about your partner’s habits. Think, what are you really upset about and why?

     It’s important to note that there are definite behaviors that can ruin any relationship. These go beyond the annoyances of finding potato chips in bed and often have to do with bodily functions or cleanliness, putting the job or other people first, not spending enough time together, excessive nagging or being overly critical. If any of these behaviors sound familiar, there could be underlying currents of bigger problems that need to be addressed.  

     When you accept each other’s minor quirks and habits, you remain one solid unit. Change what you can and accept what you can’t. In other words, don’t sweat the small stuff.

You don’t need someone to complete you.

You only need someone to accept you completely.

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